In my "almost" 24 years on this planet I have come to realise that certain people have certain roles in their relationships. Speaking from a girls perspective, in High School and College you've got the mean girls, the model-types, the popular girls, the geeks and those who sit somewhere in between. But amongst all of that time at school where some battle through everyday hoping they won't get teased again and others are dealing with their traumatic "does he love me" dramas we have ingrained in our minds than in a few years this will be over and we can live amongst the adults.
We are conditioned to believe by those older than us that everything will change once you leave school. It won't matter whether you were the most popular kid in school or the toughest or the one that everyone wanted to be like because when you leave those doors you leave those labels behind. Because nobody gives a shit who you were in high school.
And strictly speaking job-wise this is true, unless your going for something like a modelling job, it doesn't matter if your not 5ft6 size 8, 32C goddess (If your reading this and meet these credentials give yourself a high five you meet my ideals). Your ability to work hard and meet expectations is of much greater importance than how many boys liked you or how many girls called you their Queen Bee. And sometimes Karma has a nice way of coming through for the kids that were once called losers by the people now calling them boss.
But for friendships and social status, the roles will always still be there just under a different title. The gorgeous friend that all the boys/girls drool over who although they could be the nicest person in the world, always makes you feel slightly inadequate on a night out. The dramatic one, who could talk for endless hours about the dramas in their lives, often forgetting to ask you about your own life. The funny one who is always there when you need some light hearted relief, but not so great in a serious situation. And lastly, the reliable one who is always there when you need them, tends to say yes to any last minute favours and is always the best shoulder to cry on.
But maybe life is not so black and white and maybe it's easier for people to fall into these roles rather than show the real them. The gorgeous one that appears to ooze confidence might need the attention from others to distract from the insecurities they have about themselves, the dramatic one might need to keep the drama going on in their life because they need something going on to keep them from being forgotten. The funny one may be hiding behind a mask of being the life and soul because in reality their quite sad and talking about that is too hard for them. And the reliable one, who is always there might just be fighting their own battle but doesn't think anybody would stick around to be their shoulder to cry on.
I know which one I am, do you?
Stereotypes & social roles will never leave us but we have to remember that not everything is exactly how it seems all the time. People tend to have a good skill of hiding who they really are to match up to the expectations that others have of them.
xxx
We are conditioned to believe by those older than us that everything will change once you leave school. It won't matter whether you were the most popular kid in school or the toughest or the one that everyone wanted to be like because when you leave those doors you leave those labels behind. Because nobody gives a shit who you were in high school.
And strictly speaking job-wise this is true, unless your going for something like a modelling job, it doesn't matter if your not 5ft6 size 8, 32C goddess (If your reading this and meet these credentials give yourself a high five you meet my ideals). Your ability to work hard and meet expectations is of much greater importance than how many boys liked you or how many girls called you their Queen Bee. And sometimes Karma has a nice way of coming through for the kids that were once called losers by the people now calling them boss.
But for friendships and social status, the roles will always still be there just under a different title. The gorgeous friend that all the boys/girls drool over who although they could be the nicest person in the world, always makes you feel slightly inadequate on a night out. The dramatic one, who could talk for endless hours about the dramas in their lives, often forgetting to ask you about your own life. The funny one who is always there when you need some light hearted relief, but not so great in a serious situation. And lastly, the reliable one who is always there when you need them, tends to say yes to any last minute favours and is always the best shoulder to cry on.
But maybe life is not so black and white and maybe it's easier for people to fall into these roles rather than show the real them. The gorgeous one that appears to ooze confidence might need the attention from others to distract from the insecurities they have about themselves, the dramatic one might need to keep the drama going on in their life because they need something going on to keep them from being forgotten. The funny one may be hiding behind a mask of being the life and soul because in reality their quite sad and talking about that is too hard for them. And the reliable one, who is always there might just be fighting their own battle but doesn't think anybody would stick around to be their shoulder to cry on.
I know which one I am, do you?
Stereotypes & social roles will never leave us but we have to remember that not everything is exactly how it seems all the time. People tend to have a good skill of hiding who they really are to match up to the expectations that others have of them.
xxx
